The definition of a “girl.”
Clever, but average.
Elegant, but witty.
Mature, but innocent.
Confident, but quiet.
Hard-working, but subtle.
Thinks big, but is still down-to-earth.
Career-oriented, but doesn’t forget about family.
Puts herself first, but only after making sure that everyone else doesn’t mind.
It’s astonishing how complex a ‘girl’ can be. Society’s perception of females has evolved greatly overtime; from all women being assumed to play the role of a housewife, to being expected to manage a successful education/career, while maintaining the skills of a primary caretaker of a family. These complex ordeals have led to women always pushing themselves to great limits in order to reach these inhumane expectations because while society puts such a burden on females to succeed, it also has no problem bringing females down and making them believe that they will never be good enough.
Surprisingly, the worst enemies in society aren’t the men who don’t believe in the capabilities of females, but the competitions between other females and themselves. Intentional or not, unfortunately these rigorous comparisons still exist in our society today that create the issue of girls trying to fit into these contradicting labels, a problem I believe feminism aims to combat.
Which is why I think that feminism isn’t solely about proving your worth to others, but more importantly, it’s about loving yourself. Nowadays, comparisons have gotten out of control because they lead you to always look for a better “you”, while forgetting to appreciate who you are already.
Yes, feminism strives to promote equality between men and women as well, but when you begin to improve your self-confidence, you prioritize better things than constantly comparing yourself to the figures in magazines. When you focus on yourself first, you start to see yourself through this new light of acceptance. And that’s why I believe caring for yourself is the first step to eliminating the need to compare yourself to others and get involved with the complex labels society has created for females. I believe that once you prioritize your own confidence, the evil of society will change itself.
I create art, music and films, participate in robotics and mock trials, write poetry, and volunteer to help me gain my confidence. I want to push past this barrier of comparison and labels. Unfortunately, society has made this quite difficult, nonetheless I believe that change is necessarily and I’m willing to fight for it.